Salat basics

العناية بالأولاد


Summary


1) Raising children is an obligation

2) Seeking a righteous wife and a righteous husband

3) Invocations by husband and wife and asking Allah to make their children righteous

4) The messenger (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) teaches Amru Ibnu Salama

5) Justice between children





FIRST KHUTBA


O People fear Allah in all your situations. For Allah's fearfulness and cautiousness is the best characteristic that you could have in your life and take provisions for the day of return and preserve the advice and orders from Allah to you regarding your children for they are the greatest trust. Your wives and your children are amana - trusts - from Allah and those who take good care of trusts are among the inheritors of Paradise.



Allah says:

وَٱلَّذِينَ هُمْ لاِمَـٰنَـٰتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رٰعُونَ وَٱلَّذِينَ هُمْ عَلَىٰ صَلَوٰتِهِمْ يُحَـٰفِظُونَ أُوْلَـئِكَ هُمُ ٱلْوٰرِثُونَ ٱلَّذِينَ يَرِثُونَ ٱلْفِرْدَوْسَ هُمْ فِيهَا خَـٰلِدُونَ [المؤمنون:8-11]

"Those who faithfully true to their trust and duties and to their covenants and those who strictly guard their prayers these are indeed are inheritors who shall inherit paradise they shall dwell therein forever"(Mu’minun: 8-11).



Servants of Allah, Allah says (about inheritance):

يُوصِيكُمُ ٱللَّهُ فِى أَوْلَـٰدِكُمْ [سورة النساء:11]

"Allah commands you as regards your children"(An-Nisa’: 11).



Do everything in your power to protect yourself and your dependents from the fire. He Subhanahu Wa Taala says:

يٰأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءامَنُواْ قُواْ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَاراً وَقُودُهَا ٱلنَّاسُ وَٱلْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَـئِكَةٌ غِلاَظٌ شِدَادٌ لاَّ يَعْصُونَ ٱللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُون [التحريم:6]

"O You who have believed word off yourselves and your families against a fire whose fuel is men and stones over which are angels stern and severe who disobey not from executing the commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded"(At-Tahreem: 6).



It is not enough to practice your deen yourself. Especially for the head of every household. Rather, Allah has ordered us to be persistent, patient and steadfast in commanding all those under our custody to fulfill their covenant to Allah completely. This is our FIRST concern, before even wondering where we will get sustenance to feed our dependents. Additionally Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala says:

وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِٱلصَّلوٰةِ وَٱصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا لاَ نَسْأَلُكَ رِزْقاً نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُكَ وَٱلْعَـٰقِبَةُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ [طه:132]

"Enjoin prayer on your family and be patient in offering them, we ask not of you a provision, we provide for you and the good end is for the pious"(Taha: 132).



Allah commanded you as regards to your children to properly raise them, encouraging obedience and discouraging disobedience, and to command them and enjoin prayers on them, and to utilize their times with things that will have pleasant consequences and to punish among them those who stray away and are disobedient and follow their lusts and desires - up to and including severing all relations with them if they continue in ways of misguidance.



The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said in the Hadith that is found in the Musnad of Al Imam Ahmad and Abu Dawood

(مروا أولادكم بالصلاة لسبع سنين، واضربوهم عليها لعشر، وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع)

"Command your children to pray at age seven and at age ten punish them by hitting if they neglect it then separate between them in bed at the time of sleep".



That means of course that you must TEACH them the salat by that time or find someone who will teach them.



Servants of Allah, caring for children and adhering to the command and advise regarding them, starts with the man and woman before marriage asking their Lord to provide them with the righteous spouse, with good manners and sound faith. Looking for anything else in a spouse will bring about ruin, pain and destruction. It is unfortunate that so many Muslim youngsters today have as their first concern finding a spouse who doesn't have "too much" Islam.



Allah says while praising the servants of Allah as in

وَٱلَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوٰجِنَا وَذُرّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَٱجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَاماً [الفرقان:74]

"Those who say our Lord bestow on us from our wives and our offspring's the comfort of our eyes and make us leaders of the pious"(Al-Furqan: 74).



Allah informed us of the story of Musa when he saw the girls of the righteous man, who were properly mannered and chaste while he was without wife. He says:

رب إني لما أنزلت إلي من خير فقير [سورة القصص:24]

"My Lord, truly I am in need of whatever good that you bestowed on me"(Al- Qasas: 24).



This is how we must supplicate to Allah, asking him for a righteous wife that helps in being obedient.



In the book of Al Imam Bukhari and Muslim the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said as reported by Abu Hurairah Radhiyallahu Anhu: "Women are sought for four things her deen, her lineage, her beauty and her wealth..." Then he (sas) said:

(فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك)

"Win the religious wife, may your hand be dismayed with dust (if you turn away from this command)".



Issues of marriage should be concerned with deen first and foremost, above and beyond all other considerations (aside from, of course, the willingness of both parties). In the book of Al Imam Tirmidhi, he said in a Hadith addressing the guardians of women

(إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه فزوجوه - ان لم تفعلوا تكون فتنة في الارض وفساد كبير) او كما قال صلى الله عليه وسلم

"If a man comes to you and you are satisfied with his manners and his religion, marry your daughter off to him".



Servants of Allah the second issue, which brings about joy and happiness, is that the husband and wife supplicate to Allah for righteous offspring.



As Allah informed us about Ibrahim, in Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala says:

رَبّ هَبْ لِى مِنَ ٱلصَّـٰلِحِينِ [الصافات:100]

رَبّ ٱجْعَلْنِى مُقِيمَ ٱلصَّلوٰةِ وَمِن ذُرّيَتِى [إبراهيم:40]

"O My Lord make me one who perform prayer and from my offspring's or Lord and accept my invocations"(Ibrahim: 40).



Ibrahim also said with Isma’il:

رَبَّنَا وَٱجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ [البقرة:128]

"Our Lord and make us submissive on to you and of our offspring's a nation submissive on to you"(Al-Baqarah: 128).



Don't we want our children down through the coming generations to be examples of Islam for the people of this land?



Allah says regarding Zakariyah:

رَبّ هَبْ لِى مِن لَّدُنْكَ ذُرّيَّةً طَيّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ ٱلدُّعَاء [آل عمران:38]

"O My Lord, grant me from you a good offspring's you are indeed the all hearer of invocations "(Aal-Imran: 38).



Allah says when mentioning invocations of parents:

لَئِنْ ءاتَيْتَنَا صَـٰلِحاً لَّنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ ٱلشَّـٰكِرِينَ [الأعراف:189]

"If you give us a righteous child we shall indeed be among the grateful"(Al-A'raf: 189).



This proves that a righteous child is one the greatest bounties and favors from Allah. Why would it not be when the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) mentioned in the book of Al Imam Muslim

وابن آدم إذا مات: ((انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: صدقة جارية، أو علم ينتفع به، أو ولد صالح يدعو له))

"When the son of Adam dies, he loses benefit from his deeds except from three. A charity that is continuous in benefit, beneficial knowledge and a righteous son that supplicates for him".



Servants of Allah! Adhering to the command and advice of Allah concerning children and family, is to be sincere in supplicating for them to have all good. Not to curse them even at the time of anger, that is because the supplications for or against the child is accepted. Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala informed us about Ibrahim when he supplicated for his offspring when he said:

وَٱجْنُبْنِى وَبَنِىَّ أَن نَّعْبُدَ ٱلاْصْنَامَ [إبراهيم:35]

"Keep me and my sons away form worshiping idols"(Ibrahim: 35).



Therefore, Allah accepted his supplication and made his sons Prophets to guide humankind.



In the book of Imam Muslim reported by Jaabar, the messenger (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:

(لا تدعوا على أنفسكم، ولا تدعوا على أولادكم، ولا تدعوا على أموالكم، لا توافقوا من الله ساعة يسأل فيها عطاء فيستجيب لكم)

"Don't curse yourselves and don't curse your children and don't curse your wealth because you might coincide with an hour of acceptance with Allah, then he accepts the supplications and replies".



Fathers and mothers, take care of your children, raise them righteously to be grateful and they will be helpful and heavier on your scale on the Day of Judgment, even though they might be at a young age because teaching and raising properly from a young age is like someone engraving on rocks, it stays and its effect is lasting.



Amru Ibnu Salama Radhiyallahu Anhuma said:

كنت غلاما في حجر رسول الله ، وكانت يدي تطيش في الصحفة، فقال لي رسول الله : ((يا غلام، سمِّ الله ـ تعالى ـ، وكل بيمينك، وكل مما يليك))

"I was a young boy under the care of the messenger (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam)) and my hand use to go around the dish while eating. He said to me (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam)) "O Boy, say Bismillah, and eat with your right hand and eat of the dish what is near to you". Then Amru said "Since that I have applied those instruction while eating",



and he (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) also said:

(مروا أبناءكم بالصلاة لسبع سنين، واضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع)

"Command your children to observe prayers at the age seven and at the age ten punish them by hitting if they neglect Salah and separate them at the time of sleep".



The command of the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam)) to separate between children at the time of sleep comes as a deterrent to prevent corruption and to bring the attention of the Muslim Nation of their obligations to safe guard and preserve the religion.



O Muslims, it is the right of your children upon you for you to be just between them when giving gifts. The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam)) said to one man

(إن لبنيك عليك من الحق أن تعدل بينهم)

"Your children have the right on you to be just between them".



The Salaf use to desire this justice even in the distribution of kisses. The reason for that is, one of the companions specified the child in giving a gift, and wanted the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam)) to attend to that and testify to it. So the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam)) said

أحد الصحابة خص أحد أولاده بصدقة وأراد أن يشهد النبي عليها فقال له النبي : ((أفعلت هذا بولدك كلهم؟)) قال: لا، قال: ((أفتحب أن يكونوا لك في البر سواء؟)) قال: نعم، قال: ((فاتقوا الله واعدلوا بين أولادكم)) [10]، وفي رواية قال : ((أشهد على هذا غيري فإني لا أشهد على جور)) [11]، وفي لفظ: ((إلاَّ على الحق)) [12]. فرجع ذلك الرجل في صدقته وعدل بين أولاده في عطيته

"Did you do that with the rest of your children”. He said: "No". The prophet said: "Wouldn't you like that they all have the same level of dutifulness towards you”. He said: "Yes ". The prophet said: " Then fear Allah, and be just between your children". In another narration, he said to him: "Get someone else to testify on this, I do not testify to oppression".



In another narration he said: "I only testify to that which is the truth", so that man companion when back, took that gift back and was just between his children.



So, fear Allah, O Servants of Allah, and adhere and preserve the command and advise of Allah to you concerning your children and remember your position in the day of resurrection. As Allah says that which translates as:

يَوْمَ لاَ يُغْنِى مَوْلًى عَن مَّوْلًى شَيْئاً وَلاَ هُمْ يُنصَرُونَ [الدخان:41]

"The day when a near relative can not avail another near relative in ought, and no help can they receive" (Ad-Dukhan: 41).



May Allah bless you and I with the guidance of the Qur’an.

Assalamualikum. Beautiful Hadith for all.

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said: 'When a man dies and his relatives are busy in funeral, there stands an extremely handsome man by his head. When the dead body is shrouded, that man gets in between the shroud and the chest of the deceased.
When after the burial, the people return home, 2 angels, Munkar and Nakeer(names of two special Angels), come in the grave and try to separate this handsome man so that they may be able to interrogate the dead man in privacy about his faith. But the handsome man says, 'He is my companion, he is my friend. I will not leave him alone in any case. If you are appointed for interrogation, do your job. I cannot leave him until I get him admitted into Paradise '.
Thereafter he turns to his dead companion and says, 'I am the Qur'an, which you used to read, sometimes in a loud voice and sometimes in a low voice. Do not worry. After the interrogation of Munkar and Naker, you will have no grief.'
When the interrogation is over, the handsome man arranges for him from Al-Mala'ul A'laa (the angels in Heaven) silk bedding filled with musk.
Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said: 'On the Day of Judgement, before Allah, no other Intercessor will have a greater status than the Qur'an, neither a Prophet nor an angel.'
Please keep forwarding this 'Hadith' to all ....because
Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said:
'Pass on knowledge from me even if it is only one verse'.
May Allah bestow this favour on all of us.
AMEEN
Assalamu Alaikum
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SAYINGS (HADITH) OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD (Sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam)
The one who disdains prayers (Salat) will receive Fifteen punishments from
Allah..
Six punishments in this lifetime
Three while dying
Three in the grave &
Three on the Day of Judgment.
THE SIX PUNISHMENTS OF LIFE :
1. Allah takes away blessings from his age (makes his life misfortunate)
2. Allah does not accept his plea (Dua's)
3. Allah erases the features of good people from his face.
4. He will be detested by all creatures on earth.
5. Allah does not reward him for his good deeds. (No thawab)
6. He will not be included in the Dua's of good people.
THE THREE PUNISHMENTS WHILE DYING :
1. He dies humiliated.
2. He dies hungry.
3. He dies thirsty. Even if he drinks the water of all seas he will still be thirsty.
THE THREE PUNISHMENTS IN THE GRAVE :
1. Allah tightens his grave until his chest ribs come over each other.
2. Allah pours on him fire with embers.
3. Allah sets on him a snake called 'the brave', 'the bold' which hits him from morning until afternoon for leaving Fajr prayer, from the afternoon until Asr for leaving Dhuhr prayer and so on. With each strike he sinks 70 yards under the ground.
THE THREE PUNISHMENTS ON THE DAY OF JUDGMENT :
1. Allah sends who would accompany him to hell pulling him on the face.
2. Allah gives him an angry look that makes the flesh of his face fall down.
3. Allah judges him strictly and orders him to be thrown in hell.
Note: If you get this copy, please make copies of it and distribute them among all Muslims. You will be earning a Reward as well as helping to show your brother the Right Path. May Allah give guidance to all of us.
AAMEEN!!!!!! !
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THOSE WHO DO NOT SAY THEIR PRAYERS OF:
FAJR : the glow of their face is taken away.
ZUHR : the blessing of their income is taken away.
ASR : the strength of their body is taken away.
MAGHRIB : they are not benefited by their children.
'ISHA : the peace of their sleep is taken away.
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THE HOLY QUR'AN:
'Say Your Prayers Before Prayers For You Are Said'.

Islam is a religion without any mythology. Its teachings are simple and intelligible. It is free from superstitions and irrational beliefs. The oneness of Allah, the prophet hood of Muhammad, and the concept of life after death are the basic articles of its faith. They are based on reason and sound logic.

All of the teachings of Islam flow from those basic beliefs and are simple and straightforward. There is no hierarchy of priests, no farfetched abstractions, no complicated rites or rituals.

Everybody may approach the Qur'an directly and translate its dictates into practice. Islam awakens in man the faculty of reason and exhorts him to use his intellect. It enjoins him to see things in the light of reality. The Qur'an advises him to seek knowledge and invoke Allah to expand his awareness : "... My Lord! Increase me in knowledge." (20: 114) Allah also says: " ... Are those who know equal to those who know not? It's only men of understanding who will remember." (39: 9)

It is reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that: "He who leaves his home in search of knowledge (walks) in the path of Allah." (Reported by At-Tirmidhi) and that "Seeking knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim." (Reported by Ibn Majah and al-Bayhaqi) This is how Islam brings man out of the world of superstition and darkness and initiates him into the world of knowledge and light.

Again, Islam is a practical religion and does not allow indulgence in empty and futile theorizing. It says that faith is not a mere profession of beliefs, but rather that it is the very mainspring of life. Righteous conduct must follow belief in Allah. Religion is something to be practiced and not an object of mere lip service. The Qur'an says: " ... Those who believed (in the Oneness of Allah) and work righteousness, Tuba (all kinds of happoiness or name of a tree in Paradise) is for them, and a beautiful place of (final) return." (13: 29)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) is also reported to have said: "Allah does not accept belief if it is not expressed in deeds, and does not accept deeds if they do not conform to belief." (Reported by At-Tabarani)

Thus Islam's simplicity, rationality and practicality are what characterize Islam as a unique and true religion.

Unity of Matter and Spirit
A feature of Islam is that it does not divide life into watertight compartments of matter and spirit. It stands not for denial of life but for the fulfillment of life. Islam does not believe in asceticism. It does not ask man to avoid material things. It holds that spiritual elevation is to be achieved by living piously in the rough and tumble of life, not by renouncing the world. The Qur'an advises us to pray as follows: " ... Our Lord! Give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is good ..." (2: 201)

But in making use of life's luxuries, Islam advises man to be moderate and keep away from extravagance, Allah says: "… and eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allah) likes not Al-Musrifun (those who waste by extravagance) ." (7: 31)

On this aspect of moderation, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said : "Observe fasting and break it (at the proper time) and stand in prayer and devotion (in the night) and have sleep, for your body has its right over you, and your eyes have rights over you, and your wife has a claim upon you, and the person who pays a visit to you has a claim upon you."

Thus, Islam does not admit any separation between "material" and "moral," "mundane" and "spiritual" life, and enjoins man to devote all of his energies to the reconstruction of life on healthy moral foundations. It teaches him that moral and material powers must be welded together and that spiritual salvation can be achieved by using material resources for the good of man in the service of just ends and not by living a life of asceticism or by running away from the challenges of life.

Islam seeks to establish equilibrium between the two aspects of life - the material and the spiritual. It says that everything in the world is for man, but man was created to serve a higher purpose: the establishment of a moral and just order that will fulfil the will of Allah. Its teachings cater for the spiritual as well as the temporal needs of man. Islam enjoins man to purify his soul and to reform his daily life - both individual and collective - and to establish the supremacy of right over might and of virtue over vice. Thus Islam stands for the middle path and the goal of producing a moral man in the service of a just society.

Islam, a Complete Way of Life
Islam is not a religion in the common and distorted sense, for it does not confine its scope to one's private life. It is a complete way of life and is inclusive of every field of human existence. Islam provides guidance for all aspects of life - individual and social, material and moral, economic and political, legal and cultural, and national and international. The Qur'an enjoins man to embrace Islam without any reservation and to follow Allah's guidance in all areas of life.

In fact, it was an unfortunate day when the scope of religion was confined to the private life of man and its social and cultural role was reduced to naught, as has happened in this century. No other factor, perhaps, has been more important in causing the decline of religion in the modern age than its retreat into the realm of private life. In the words of a modern philosopher: "Religion asks us to separate things of God from those of Caesar. Such a judicial separation between the two means the degrading of both the secular and the sacred ... That religion is worth little if the conscience of its followers is not disturbed when war clouds are hanging over us all and industrial conflicts are threatening social peace. Religion has weakened man's social conscience and moral sensitivity by separating the things of God from those of Caesar."

Islam totally denounces this concept of religion and clearly states that its objectives are the purification of the soul and the reform and reconstruction of society.

Thus even a cursory study of the teachings of Islam shows that it is an all-embracing way of life and does not leave out any field of human existence to become a playground for the forces of evil.

Another unique feature of Islam is that it establishes a balance between individualism and collectivism. It believes in the individual personality of man and holds everyone personally accountable to Allah. The Prophet (peace be upon him) says: "Everyone of you is a guardian, and responsible for what is in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it, and a servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for it." The Prophet also said, "A man is a guardian of his father's property and is responsible for it, so all of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and things under your care ."(Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Islam also guarantees the fundamental rights of the individual and does not permit anyone to tamper with them. It makes the proper development of the personality of man one of the prime objectives of its educational policy. It does not subscribe to the view that man must lose his individuality in society or in the state.

In Islam, all men are equal, regardless of colour, language, race, or nationality. It addresses itself to the conscience of humanity and banishes all false barriers of race, status, and wealth. There can be no denying the fact that such barriers have always existed and continue to exist today in the so-called enlightened age. Islam removes all of these impediments and proclaims the ideal of the whole of humanity being one universal family.

Islam is international in its outlook and approach and does not admit barriers and distinctions based on color, clan, blood, or territory, as was the case before the advent of Muhammad (peace be upon him). Unfortunately, these prejudices remain rampant in different forms even in this modern age. Islam wants to unite the entire human race under one banner. To a world torn by national rivalries and feuds, it presents a message of life and hope and of a glorious future.

Complete Record of Teachings Preserved
Last, but not least, is the fact that the teachings of Islam have been preserved in their original form. As a result, Allah's guidance is available without adulteration of any kind. The Qur'an is the revealed book and word of Allah, which has existed for the last fourteen hundred years. It is still available in its original form. Detailed accounts of the life of the Prophet and of his teachings are available in their pristine purity.

There has not been even one change made in this unique historical record. The sayings and the entire record of the life of the Prophet have been handed down to us with unprecedented precision and authenticity in works of the Hadith and the Sirah (the Prophet's Biography). Even a number of non-Muslim critics admit this eloquent fact.

These are some of the unique features of Islam that establish its credentials as the religion of man, the religion of today, and the religion of tomorrow. These aspects have appealed to millions of people in the past and the present and have made them affirm that Islam is the religion of truth and the right path for mankind.